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Understanding Shiva
Understanding Shiva
What is Shiva
What is Sitting Shiva
How is Shiva Observed
Periods of Mourning
Periods Of Mourning
The Year-Long Mourning Period
Ending Shiva
Shiva in the Workplace
How to Help
Sitting Shiva
Sitting Shiva
Who Sits Shiva
Who Sits Shiva
Intermarriage, Conversion, and Non-Jewish Relatives
Contemporary Issues in Death, Burial and Mourning
Adoptive Parents and Adopted Children
Mourner Observances
The First Meal
Preparing the Shiva House
Mourner's Kaddish
Shiva Preparation Checklist
How Sitting Shiva Can Help
Workplace
Company Policy on Bereavement
First Steps: Notifying your Employer, Co-workers and Supervisors
Time Away From Work
Loss of an Employee
Exceptions
Books
Poems of Comfort
Psalms of Comfort
Visiting a Shiva Home
Visiting a Shiva Home
Making a Shiva Call
How to Enter a Shiva Home
Comforting Jewish Mourners: Nihum Avelim
Children and Shiva
Children and Shiva
Place For Children During Shiva
What to Expect
How to Act
How to Act
Duration of Visit
Taking Part in Prayer Services
What to Say
Engaging in Conversation
What to Say
What to Bring or Send
How to Express Condolences During COVID-19 Pandemic
What to Bring or Send
Food and Condolence Baskets
Make a Donation
Plant a Tree in Israel
Create a Plaque and Memory Page
Sympathy Messages and Quotes
Flowers and the Jewish Mourning Tradition
Planning and Coordinating
COVID: Post COVID-19 Planning a Jewish Funeral: “New Normal”
COVID: Food Safety at Shivas and Memorials in a Coronavirus World
Planning and Coordinating
How to Plan a Shiva
The Shiva Coordinator
Guide: Preparing the Shiva Home
Shiva Preparation Checklist
Death and Mourning
Death and Mouring
Viewneral™ Collaborative and Interactive Virtual Funerals
Viewneral™ Collaborative and Interactive Virtual Funerals
Virtual Funeral Services: How to Attend as Guest
Guidance for Speakers at a Virtual Funeral Service
Virtual Shiva: How to Attend
Jewish Funerals and Burial
Jewish Funerals and Burial
Tattoos, Piercings, Amputation, Cremation and Suicide
Find a Funeral Home
The Unveiling
The Unveiling
Unveiling History, Service, and Prayers
Sample Unveiling Ceremony
Visiting the Cemetery
Placing a Stone
Burial and Cemetery
What is a Jewish Cemetery
Types of Jewish Cemeteries
Types of Jewish Burials
How to Select a Jewish Cemetery
The Jewish Burial Service
Prayers and Services
Prayers and Services
About Kaddish
Mourner's Kaddish
Kel Maleh Rachamim (Prayer of Mercy)
The Power of Prayer
Yizkor
Yizkor
Yizkor Sermon by Rabbi Pamela Gottfried
Honor and Commemorate
Jewish Holidays
Jewish Holidays
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Sh’mini Atzeret
Simchat Torah
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Lag Ba’Omer
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Jewish Calendar
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Yizkor Sermon by Rabbi Pamela Gottfried
Plaques and Yahrzeit Walls
Placing a Stone
Chai, Its Meaning and Significance
Naming a Child
Coping and Grief
Post-Covid-19 Funerals, Gatherings & PTSD
Jewish Grief and Mourning during the COVID-19 Coronavirus Pandemic
A New Grief: Staying Connected to Help During COVID-19 Coronavirus
Coping and Grief
What is Grief
The ‘New Grief’: How Families Grieve and Navigate Emotions After a Loss
The Need for Coping
Grieving and Bereavement
Find a Grief Center
The Passing of a Child
The Passing of a Friend
The Passing of a Former Spouse
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Understanding Survivors Guilt
COVID-19 Loss, Grief & Gatherings During the Holiday Season
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Understanding Shiva
What is Shiva
What is Sitting Shiva
How is Shiva Observed
Periods of Mourning
The Year-Long Mourning Period
Ending Shiva
Shiva in the Workplace
How to Help
Sitting Shiva
Who Sits Shiva
Intermarriage, Conversion, and Non-Jewish Relatives
Contemporary Issues in Death, Burial and Mourning
Adoptive Parents and Adopted Children
Mourner Observances
The First Meal
Preparing the Shiva House
Mourner's Kaddish
Shiva Preparation Checklist
How Sitting Shiva Can Help
Workplace
Company Policy on Bereavement
First Steps: Notifying your Employer, Co-workers and Supervisors
Time Away From Work
Loss of an Employee
Helping a Colleague Re-enter the Work Environment
Exceptions
Books
Poems of Comfort
Psalms of Comfort
3 Ways to Support a Family Sitting Shiva
Visiting a Shiva Home
COVID-19 Coronavirus - Social Distancing and Jewish Mourning, shiva
Making a Shiva Call
How to Enter a Shiva Home
Comforting Jewish Mourners: Nihum Avelim
What to Wear to a Shiva
Children and Shiva
Place For Children During Shiva
What to Expect
How to Act
How Long to Stay at a Shiva
Taking Part in Prayer Services
What to Say
Engaging in Conversation
What to Bring or Send
How to Express Condolences during COVID-19 Pandemic
Food and Condolence Baskets
Make a Donation
Plant a Tree in Israel
American Independence Park
Create a Plaque and Memory Page
Sympathy Messages and Quotes
Kosher Sympathy Gift Guide
What is a Shiva Basket
Flowers and the Jewish Mourning Tradition
Appropriate Food To Bring to A Shiva
Planning and Coordinating
COVID: Post COVID-19 Planning a Jewish Funeral: “New Normal”
COVID: Food Safety at Shivas and Memorials in a Coronavirus World
How to Plan a Shiva
The Shiva Coordinator
Shiva Food and Catering
A Guide to Preparing the Shiva Home
Shiva Preparation Checklist
Funeral Home Directory
Synagogue Directory
Cemetery Directory
Death and Mourning
Viewneral™ Collaborative and Interactive Virtual Funerals
Virtual Funeral Services: How to Attend as Guest
Guidance for Speakers at a Virtual Funeral Service
Virtual Shiva: How to Attend
Jewish Funerals and Burial
Tattoos, Piercings, Amputation, Cremation and Suicide
Find a Funeral Home
Find a Cemetery
The Unveiling
Unveiling History, Service, and Prayers
Sample Unveiling Ceremony
Visiting the Cemetery
Placing a Stone
Burial and Cemetery
What is a Jewish Cemetery
Types of Jewish Cemeteries
Types of Jewish Burials
How to Select a Jewish Cemetery
The Jewish Burial Service
Find a Cemetery
Find a Funeral Home
Prayers and Services
About Kaddish
Mourner's Kaddish
Minyan Service
Kel Maleh Rachamim (Prayer of Mercy)
The Power of Prayer
Yizkor
Yizkor Sermon by Rabbi Pamela Gottfried
Honor and Commemorate
Jewish Holidays
Shabbat
Rosh Hashanah
Yom Kippur
Sukkot
Sh’mini Atzeret
Simchat Torah
Hanukkah (Chanukah)
Purim
Shushan Purim
Passover (Pesach)
Yom HaShoah (Holocaust Remembrance Day)
Yom HaZikaron (Israeli Memorial Day)
Yom HaAtzmaut (Israeli Independence Day)
Tu B'Shevat - The New Year of Trees
Pesach Sheni (Second Passover)
Lag Ba’Omer
Yom Yerushalayim (Jerusalem Day)
Shavuot
Tish’ah B’Av
Jewish Calendar
Jewish Calendar Info
Plant a Tree to Honor and Commemorate
Yahrzeit
Yahrzeit Calculator
Yizkor
Plaques and Yahrzeit Walls
Placing a Stone
Chai, Its Meaning and Significance
Naming a Child
Coping and Grief
Post-Covid-19 Funerals, Gatherings & PTSD
Jewish Grief and Mourning during the COVID-19 Coronavirus Pandemic
A New Grief: Staying Connected to Help during COVID-19
COVID-19 Loss, Grief & Gatherings During the Holiday Season
What is Grief
The ‘New Grief’: How Families Grieve and Navigate Emotions After a Loss
The Need for Coping
Grieving and Bereavement
Find a Grief Center
Grief During The Holidays
Loss of a Parent
The Passing of a Child
The Passing of a Friend
The Passing of a Former Spouse
The Passing of an Employee
The Passing of a Professional
Understanding Survivors Guilt
Resources
Find a Synagogue
Find a Grief Center
Jewish Funeral Home Directory
English / Hebrew Date Converter
Religious Viewpoints
Kosher
Certain Food Products that are Considered Kosher
Keeping Kosher Today
What is a Kashrut Supervision Agency?
Workplace Resources
Definitions
Poems of Comfort
Psalms of Comfort
Books
Checklist
Time and Place
Decide where, when, and what times you will sit shiva.
Note any special times that will be reserved for only close family, and those times that will be open to all visitors.
Planning & Assistance
Coordinate with friends and family.
Set up and prepare the shiva house.
Receive deliveries at the shiva house while the family is at the cemetery.
Coordinate meals for the family through shiva and the following weeks.
Food and Meals
Food for the family and guests both during and after shiva. Order from local providers or coordinate to have food cooked by friends.
Drinks, ice, and coffee during the shiva.
Serving items for the food, including: Trays, chaffing dishes, plates, napkins, cups, silverware, etc.
Containers for leftover food.
Identify where to donate laftover food and who will take it there.
Service Personnel
Clean the house before and after shiva.
Set up tables and chairs.
Serve and clean during the shiva.
Personal Matters
Notify your employer of your loss and arrange schedule.
Cancel or reschedule any doctor or other important appointments for yourself and your family.
The Shiva House
Clean the house before and after.
Set up tables and chairs, food and beverages.
Consider having a sign-in book and pens for guest.
Put away any highly delicate or breakable items in the house.
The home should have ample supply of paper towels, tissues, toilet paper, and garbage bags.
Consider parking arrangement for guests.
Consider having a sign-in book and pens for guest.
Alert neighbors and the local police that there will be cars parked in observance during the days you hold shiva.
Religious Traditions
Obtain and light candles for the shiva house upon returning from the cemetery.
Cover mirrors.
Consider providing slippers or non-leather shoes for mourners.
Have prayer books and Yarmulkes for those who wish to use them.
Have low chairs, stools or wooden boxes for mourners to sit on.
Place a water pitcher, water collection bowl, and paper towels outside the front door for use upon return from the cemetery.
Service and Clergy
Coordinate with your temple, rabbi, or other chosen clergy to perform a service at the shiva house.
If you will not have clergy leading the service, consider who will lead.
Consider if there is a need for a formal minyan at the service.
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